What Happens Next?

A Family Guide to Nursing Home Visits...& More

Choosing long-term,comprehensive care for a beloved, elderly relative is difficult enough for many families. subsequent visits to a nursing home shouldn't have to be heart-wrenching. This easy-to-read guide, offers helpful advice on:

  • Making conversation
  • When you can't be there
  • Things you're bound to hear
  • Aging sexual identity
  • Including others
  • Forms for record keeping
  • Residents' rights

The cover artwork was adapted from a sketch done by Chloe JonPaul’s mother, Clotilde Buscaglia, shortly after her admission to Crofton Convalescent Center.


Phil Gordon, Administrator, Crofton Convalescent & Rehabilitation Ctr. After 16+ years in the nursing home industry, I have finally found a down-to-earth, easy-to-read manual that truly helps you enjoy time spent with your loved one. Quality of life begins and ends with your involvement. The tips in this manual help you make this an easier transition for both you and your loved one. The author’s first-hand accounts of her experiences are invaluable and provide comfort and support to those entering into this difficult time.

Michael Allard ★★★★★ A Loving Path for Difficult Times ~October 6, 2004 This is a short book that isn't overwhelming. That's good because many of us find ourselves fraught with anxiety, frozen in place, or overcome by mixed emotions when confronted by caring for a loved one. Ms. Jon Paul combines her professional acumen as a teacher and the remembrances of caring for her mother (and others)to remind us that these experiences and our emotions are not distant object relations but part of our very real life as we and others progress to the autumn or last days of life. The resultant advice is heartfelt and the notion that our and others' mistakes can be overcome and used with value to bring back an essential and loving humanity to our world so full of schedules, deadlines, frustration, and hurt. This work is a little treasure that reminds us that being human is a collective experience.

Your Mentor ★★★★★ What Happens Next? A family guide to nursing home visits. ~September 22, 2004 If you expected to read the "same old, same old" about nursing home and care from Chloe - WRONG you are. She gives the RIGHT ideas of how to continue loving your loved one. Daily situations of laughter, tears, nonsense conversation and flirtation with the opposite gender are directly discussed. It is obvious Chloe had first hand experience. Her writing style helps the reader to appreciate what love they are able to give IF they take care of #1 - themselves. This book is a must for the young and not so young to read BEFORE becoming old.

Barbara Buscaglia ★★★★★ A Light at the End of the Tunnel ~October 16, 2004 Finally- a much needed and comprehensive guide for caring families of long term care residents.

The best is yet to come!

Chloe Jon Paul